Food for thought : Why we do what we do

Girls always know when a guy likes her.We have an antenna for it.Don't ask me how,we just sort of know,& its not exactly difficult to figure it out especially when a guy stares at you or gives you furtive glances or is extra nice & helpful to you even when you hardly know them. On the other hand guys in this case most of the times misinterpret us gals.

For example: I was once accused by a guy of checking him out,when actually i was checking whether the idiot was still staring at me & in my mind i was thinking of ways to escape from there. Being wrongly accused just turned me off more,got me pissed & made me rude. In short didn't serve the guy any purpose. And yeah he did ask me out & of course I rejected him.

Confidence over oneself is one thing, & overconfidence is an another matter. We like guys who are confident about themselves, it makes us believe that he can overcome any problem & take care of us,but overconfidence totally turns us off . It just tells us that the overconfident idiot is just an insecure wannabe showing off & lying by his teeth. We in turn do the only thing we can do to or know to do, that is, either ignore him totally or tell him upfront that we are not interested. Sometimes when that doesn't help & the guy is still coming off strongly on to us, we create lies to protect ourselves. These are usually that 'we are already in a relationship',or 'have just got off a relationship & so are taking a break from the dating circuit', or 'that we already like someone else & there's no way in hell that we can even think of dating someone else except that person'. My personal favorite is the "am in a relationship" one. Nothing like that one to get guys off your back :p. But some guys are still persistent & not ready to take no for an answer.That is when I go for the kill,& make a friend of mine pretend to be my boyfriend & threaten the guy. Pretty smart huh?:p. I always have a friend on hold for such emergencies.

In a college with minority of gals,those of us who are even a bit pretty, face a real dilemma. Its really not fun to have guys stalking you, hitting on you & asking you out even when they don't know you, all the time. It might look good in movies, or maybe some gals like it, but for those of us who haven't been in the limelight much,its a real harassment. After all this when we reject guys, we are labeled as rude, having attitude & what not. All bullshit. If I'd start agreeing to go with everyone who asks me or shows interest in me, all my weekends would be pretty occupied.And am not even bragging. Its just the truth. Instead I prefer hanging out with friends on weekends or staying at home & enjoying a novel. That's just who I am. Doesn't mean I don't date,I do,but only if I really like someone.I never have liked casual dating. I'd rather be with friends instead.

Gals in general have a specific idea about whom they want to date.We don't agree to go out with just about anyone who asks us or at least most of us don't. I know thats not fair, you probably must be thinking, what if the guy is actually great & you are making a mistake? Well we think its better to be safe then sorry later. Also would you like it if we agree to go on a date with you even though we don't want to,but then at the date we clam up, hardly talk & get out of the date with a bad,bored feeling? waste of time isn't it? That's why I never agree for blind dates.
Just like guys we don't like getting hurt either. We are emotionally fragile. It takes me months to get over a broken relationship of any sorts. No wonder that I am extra cautious about whom I want to date. I am not really emotionally expressive. I have been broken too many times for that & I have learned my lessons.I build walls around me for my own emotional security. But doesn't mean I don't let anyone within them. You just have to make that effort to reach within them. If you can't I guess you were never really serious to make that effort & hold on.

"You're not alone

Together we stand

I'll be by your side, you know I'll take your hand

When it gets cold

And it feels like the end

There's no place to go

You know I won't give in

No I won't give in

Keep holding on

'Cause you know we'll make it through, we'll make it through

Just stay strong

'Cause you know I'm here for you, I'm here for you

There's nothing you could say

Nothing you could do

There's no other way when it comes to the truth

So keep holding on

'Cause you know we'll make it through, we'll make it through............."